Month: March 2018

“It was spring break and I had been flirting with this guy from another school all week.  He seemed like a lot of fun, long blonde hair raspy voice and everything.  He was always hitting on me and it was just harmless fun.  It was my last night on the resort and I ran into him late night by the pool.  We went back to his room and I thought things were going well, I was down for a good time.  At one point I was fully naked and I noticed he had his phone out.  I snatched it from him and it turns out he was just about to post a video of me lying there naked.  He was speechless, didn’t even say sorry.  When I left all he could say was: ” Hey, sometimes things don’t always go quite as planned”.  ” – Female, 21

“I was taking some time to procrastinate starting my homework in the library the other day and I looked around this beautiful room lined with wooden walls with names engraved in gold next to gold plated faces of the people named and it dawned on me I was surrounded by men.  There were about a couple woman’s names out of the forty or so up there.  It’s still a stunning room but it really reinforces that our “history” up until recently was written by men about men for men.  It’s been HIS-story.” Female, 21

“A boy I was seeing used to always tell me how into hooking up with Latina girls he was.  He told me his friend was so jealous that he was hooking up with a Latina girl, it was on his bucket list apparently.  They’re supposed to be “sexy” &  “spicy” and things like that.  I know he didn’t mean to minimize me to a stereotype and at the time I was flattered, but looking back I’m upset.  I was being held to a sexual standard just because of my ethnicity.  I just want to be me.” – Female, 20

“Last weekend I went to a concert with some friends.  They wanted to go home afterward but I wanted to meet some other people out at the bars.  I ordered an Uber by myself, first mistake I guess.  He was so creepy, he kept asking for my number and started trying to get closer to me.  At one point he stroked my legs because he thought I was cold.  I didn’t know what to do, I called my friend and stayed on the phone with her until I got to my stop.  Uber is supposed to be an affordable and convenient app for everyone, but it’s not, it’s fucked up.” – Female, 21

“We weren’t really talking anymore after everything that had happened.  His best friend cornered me at a party last weekend asking me to “just come over and we can talk about it”.  He was being creepy and gross and wouldn’t let me go.  He took my phone away so I couldn’t text anyone, then he tried to force kiss me.  It was totally unexpected because we were kind of friends before all this and I always see him around.  This was the first time he went full force creep on me.  It was awful” – Female, 21

“I really don’t know if its always been this bad or maybe now that media is so significant we just hear about it more…either way, its terrifying.  I’m so aware of the possibilities it freaks me out, and every time I go somewhere I’m thinking of an escape route” – Female, 21